Tuesday, July 2, 2013

Tuesdays in Twinland: Church

In case you didn't know, I'm LDS (a Mormon). I love my faith, and feel so blessed to be a member of the LDS faith.

But since having the twins, Sundays have been a little...challenging.

Here's how this past Sunday went.

9:10 - sneak into the back row at church. We're late, again. Getting 4 people ready by 9 a.m. is no joke.

9:20 - desperately try to keep the twins quiet and occupied while the sacrament is passed

9:25 - pull out the coloring books

9:26 - one of the twins tries to color all over the metal folding chairs with a crayon.

9:27 - pull out the Cheerios

9:30 - have we seriously only been here for 20 minutes?

9:40 - Thing 1 starts throwing a fit and gets taken out

9:41 - Thing 2 realizes Thing 1 has escaped, and wonders if he throws a fit if he'll also escape

9:43-9:55 - continuously take the twins, screaming, from the chapel to the hallway. Hold them in timeout while they scream louder. Try to take them back in. Repeat the process.

9:55 - finally give up. Spend the rest of sacrament meeting in the hallway, trying to keep them quiet. The twins fight over the drinking fountain and generally cause a ruckus, embarrassing me to no end. Fellow ward members must think I never discipline my children. They are completely misbehaving, despite my best efforts.

10:20 - Say a fervent prayer of thanks for nursery. Drop the twins off at nursery, where they promptly start screaming, and enjoy a blissful hour and a half distraction-free.

As we were taking two tired and cranky kids home after the three-hour block of meetings on Sunday, I caught myself wondering...why do we do it? It's stressful. It's not fun. I really don't enjoy trying to keep the twins quiet and occupied during church. I don't get a lot out of it when I'm busy chasing them. So why bother?

Because I love my faith. I believe it's true. I feel like this is the right thing for me and my family. And even if none of us are getting anything out of the meetings, we're creating and instilling a habit. Eventually the twins will grow up. They'll sit through sacrament meeting semi-quietly. This too shall pass. It'll all be worth it. I love my faith, and so I'm willing to push through challenging Sundays.

I do it because I know it's the right thing to do. I do it because I love my savior. And I keep reminding myself I'm not the only one. There are thousands of mothers all over the world doing the same thing as me every Sunday.

TWIN MOM TIP: Sometimes teaching toddler twins seems completely and totally pointless. Don't give up. Whether you're teaching them to pray or just trying to teach them to not bite, keep at it. Eventually it'll sink in. I hope.



M. R. Buttars said...

I now have greater sympathy for what my mother for putting up with four young children at church.

Hang in there!

Lindzee said...

Marla you always comment on my posts and I LOVE it. I know I am the absolute worst at remembering to respond, but everytime I see you've commented I get a huge smile on my face. Thank you!